When Grief Comes Knocking

When Grief Comes Knocking | Healing After Loss Coaching

Losing a child is one of life’s deepest pains. Discover hope, healing, and compassionate grief coaching support for navigating profound loss.

There are moments in life that change us forever. For me, one of those moments came on an ordinary evening after a long day of work as a high school nurse. What began as a quiet night at home turned into the most devastating experience of my life.

Understanding the Loss

The knock on my apartment door came loud and unexpected. Two police officers stood there, their faces heavy with sorrow. As I let them in, I had no idea my world was about to shatter.

With gentle but heart-wrenching words, they told me my son had been found dead in his home. The shock was so overwhelming that I collapsed, crying out, “No! No! No! This isn’t real!” I could barely breathe, trembling and sobbing as they lifted me up and tried to comfort me.

At that moment, my life as I knew it felt like it ended.

Why Grief Hurts So Deeply

I had known loss before—but this was different. This was my child, my firstborn, my beloved Jason. The days and weeks that followed were filled with unimaginable sorrow.

Jason’s death certificate read positional asphyxiation likely due to diabetic coma and alcohol consumption. While I knew he struggled with drinking, I had no idea how severe it had become. The grief was unbearable. For three months, I cried every single day, the kind of tears that leave you empty and exhausted.

I couldn’t work. I couldn’t focus. I couldn’t pray or even read. Grievers often call it “brain fog”—and that’s exactly what it felt like. At times, I wondered if I even wanted to keep going. The weight of grief was that heavy.

Paths to Healing

Friends, I share this story not just to show the depth of my pain, but also to show the possibility of healing.

It has now been several years since Jason’s passing. By God’s grace, I can say that I have joy again. I smile and laugh again. I have found a purpose in my pain.

Notice that I didn’t go around the grief—I went through it. There is no shortcut. Loss must be felt, acknowledged, and processed. Only then can we begin to heal.

For me, healing came through creating a private Facebook group called Healing After Loss - a Christian Grief Group and from going through The Grief Recovery Method.  What began as a small community grew to thousands of members worldwide. Together, we share stories, faith, encouragement, and hope. Through that group, I discovered that my emotions were not strange or wrong—they were normal, human, and shared by many others walking this painful road. Through The Grief Recovery Method, I learned to use tools and skills to promote my healing.

A Calling to Help Others Heal

Out of my deepest pain came my greatest calling. Today, I serve as a Grief and Loss Recovery Specialist, certified by The Grief Recovery Institute, helping others who feel “stuck” in grief find their way back to love, peace, and purpose. It is not an easy journey, but healing is possible.

God has been faithful to walk with me, and now I walk alongside others. My ministry and life’s service is to bring comfort, healing, and hope to those facing the unimaginable. This program works for all grievers, regardless of the loss and regardless of their faith.

Encouragement

If grief has knocked on your door, please know this: you do not have to go through it alone. The pain may feel unbearable right now, but healing is possible. Joy can return. Life can have meaning again.

When grief comes knocking, you don’t have to answer the door alone. Reach out, and let’s walk through this together toward hope and healing. 

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